You may be new to the dating scene or getting back into dating after leaving a relationship and the whole thing can be pretty intimidating. It’s perfectly normal to feel stressed out about the whole thing. You may be trying online dating for the first time and you aren’t quite confident the evening will go well. Here are some dating tips that actually work that will make the evening go a lot smoother.
Ignore What the Media Says
Movies, magazines or stories about some couples’ “meet cute” are just stories and have very little basis in the real world. All they do is add a whole bunch of pressure you don’t need on what dating should be like. Dating is just two people getting together for dinner or some other social activity to get to know each other. It’s perfectly normal to have awkward moments or to be worried about what to say. Bear in mind the other person is probably as nervous as you.
Good Dates and Bad Dates
Both parties are responsible for making sure the date goes well. Both of you are responsible for basic courtesies like showing up on time and paying attention to the other person. Having manners and being respectful isn’t old fashioned it is common courtesy. Not everyone that you go on a date with is going to be “the one” but that doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy yourself. Some dates will go great and others…not so much.
Take Things Slowly
Don’t jump into anything too quickly whether that is a relationship or sex, take your time and get to know the other person first. Sex makes everything more complicated and this isn’t a moral judgement but get to know your dates first. You don’t want to end up with someone that you can’t get rid of or fall in love with someone that isn’t interested in you. Feeling an attraction is awesome but take the time to make sure this is the real thing.
Dating can be stressful, don’t put too much pressure on yourself or expect too much. Take the time to enjoy the experience. Dating can actually be fun, you get to meet new people and check out new places. Remember that both of you feel the same pressure so take the time to get to know each other. Start out with just a coffee date and work your way up to dinner. In the beginning always meet in public places that way you both feel safe.